August 10, 2012

5 ways to divorce – what are the options?

By Peter Jones, Partner

Marital breakdown may be a familiar term but for the people involved, a failed relationship is unique.

Finding the right way to legally part can avoid further upset and secure the future for both parties, both financially and emotionally.


Couples who believe the DIY option will be cheaper, quicker and problem-free because they avoid a court process are mistaken. The unnecessary trauma of court proceedings can be avoided through seeking the advice of an experience collaborative family lawyer and will protect a couple from making the potentially costly and irreversible mistakes associated with DIY divorce.


At Jones Myers LLP we are committed to using dispute resolution to minimise the stress and cost associated with relationship breakdown. Divorce mediation offers a highly effective way for both parties to discuss, agree and resolve issues. An impartial, experienced mediator will help the couple come to an agreement on all aspects of their divorce. This approach avoids both parties taking a confrontational stance in a public court which could impact on any children involved in the divorce proceedings. Mediation also gives the couple control over their divorce as they are making the important decisions.

Collaborative Divorce

Jones Myers LLP is committed and experienced in this approach which provides a smooth and civilised process for couples to achieve an amicable separation. In a collaborative divorce both parties, together with their lawyers, are involved in negotiations through face-to-face meetings. When appropriate, additional professional advisers, such as accountants and counsellors can also be brought in to the discussions.


If during the course of the previous two methods of dispute resolutions discrete issues become contentious, couples can use arbitration to resolve the problem quickly and efficiently, without recourse to the courts. Arbitrators act as ‘informal judges’ and because they are in private practice are more readily available and prepared to sit outside conventional court times. Arbitration is also cheaper because it is not subject to as many delays as the court process. As one of the 40 specially trained family lawyers appointed as arbitrators in the UK, I am proud to be at the frontline of a ground breaking development in family law.


When compared to the dispute resolution process, recourse to a lengthy, public, adversarial and expensive court action has little to recommend it.  Couples will find a judge who knows very little about them and their family will make the final decisions – on children, property, money, and ultimately how each party will live their life going forward. There is surely no better argument than this for collaborative family law when it comes to matters of divorce.

If you’re looking to resolve relationship challenges in a civilised manner, speak to one of our team call us at Jones Myers LLP on 0113 246 0055, comment below or drop us an e-mail.  You can now follow us on Twitter @helpwithdivorce?